“Hi there. Black americano please. Thank you.”
When Jo Carnegie realised that these seven words were the only ones she’d often say in a whole day it hit her hard.
After all, Jo was a successful writer and journalist, living the dream in vibrant Bristol and freelancing from cafés, co-working spaces and her cosy flat. She had loads of friends and a loving family.
So why was she so lonely?
That’s the question that prompted Jo to delve into what’s fast becoming a modern epidemic.
Whilst those of us in the gig economy - from freelancers to entrepreneurs - might be familiar with the feeling of isolation that working from home can bring, loneliness in the traditional workplace is a real thing too.
And it’s a phenomenon that’s only getting worse.
How many times have you emailed a colleague instead of picking up the phone? Had a Slack conversation when you could have chatted over a brew?
One of the hardest things to deal with is to be surrounded by people and yet feel deeply lonely. I know, because I’ve been there. That’s why I knew I had to have this conversation with Jo about how to recognise loneliness and what to do about it.
“Don’t ever think that when you’re feeling lonely, there’s something wrong with you. It’s showing you there’s something right with you.” - Jo Carnegie
It’s hard admitting you needmore real-life contact in your day, especially when everyone else seems so busy. But social media can be deceptive, because chances are others are just as lonely as you.
I’m so grateful for this conversation with Jo. In it, she breaks the taboo surrounding loneliness with love and humour, and gives us steps we can take to build more connection both at work and at home.
So please watch this episode and then reach out and connect, or reconnect with someone you care about. We need to talk about loneliness: by sharing this video you could get the ball rolling and make all the difference.
You’re not alone in this,
Mark
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IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN
How Jo Carnegie moved from romantic fiction (or ‘bonkbusting’) to wellbeing
Why working in loneliness isn’t depressing, but uplifting
When writer’s block struck, what Jo did instead
The massive need we all have for physical proximity and touch
Why human contact is the New Five A Day
How we’re becoming shyer and why the phone is like a giant adult pacifier
The power of putting your phone down and having fun or looking out of the window (even at work!)
Why making time for chit chat can make for huge productivity
Why some men prefer to exchange voice notes on WhatsApp than have a live conversation
Why Mark says London is the loneliest place he’s lived
The consequences of phasing out the old fashioned phone call
The problem of not knowing where people are any more
What you can do to reach out to a friend you think is lonely without insulting them
What the flipside to loneliness is, and how it can work wonders for your productivity and happiness
How to support The Uncoventionalists AND improve your health by shopping at Vivo Life with our very own discount code
How to get your place on Mark Leruste’s legendary podcasting masterclass and go from nought to launch without wasting any more time
SHOWNOTES:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/jocarnegie1
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocarnegie1/ and https://www.instagram.com/dearauntjosephine/
Blair’s Blues & Other News podcast
Jo’s ‘Bonkbusting books’
Tony Riddle on The Unconventionalists
‘Look at your thumbs, man!’ - clip from The Beach
Interview with former head of St Paul’s
Unplugged Parenting: book by Dr Elizabeth Kilbey
Danny Bent on The Unconventionalists
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